Dear New Mum

 Dear New Mum,

Welcome to the beginning of a beautiful transformation.

As you hold your precious little one in your arms and marvel at the miracle that has occurred, understand that you are on the precipice of a journey that can transform your life in ways you never would have imagined.

I watch you interact together, mother and child flowing as one. I see her little face light up when she sees you and yours when you see her. Unconditional love pouring between 2 souls united in this relationship. She draws you into her world so easily and invites you to leave everything else behind and just be present to the moment in front of you. I watch as you intuitively meet her needs, fully in tune, knowing exactly what she wants and needs in each moment.

Your little one is perfect, knowing and unconditionally lovable. Even in these early stages she is teaching you to let go - let go of societal expectations, let go of old conditioned beliefs, let go of control and to let go of any pre-conceived ideals and accept life as it is. To not let go will cause disharmony and disconnect.

As that new mum bubble dissolves and your child grows there will be many opportunities for your own personal growth. Unless you are a very conscious and enlightened soul these opportunities may take you by surprise. They may be disguised as something that triggers a negative emotional response in you. Something your child does will pull you out of unconditional love and you will want to unleash frustration, doubt, worry or even anger towards your child and have you react in ways you truly don’t aspire to.

You may suddenly feel yourself finding fault with this perfect being, you may want to control, manipulate and coerce them back to align with your expectations. Resist this urge to control and go with your child - stay in the flow. Grow with your child, expand your mind, question your beliefs. look at your expectations, use empathy and understanding, come from a place of love and guidance, let go and flow freely.

These moments are beautifully orchestrated for your growth, a dance of 2 souls - 1 teacher, 1 student. Your child will invite you to let go, to look deeper into yourself and heal old wounds so that you yourself can be free.

This is the way to evolve. The very experience of becoming a mother can be paramount to our spiritual growth if we embrace it and open ourselves up to the journey.

May every parent be blessed with a child that pulls them into growth and may every child be blessed with a parent that is willing to take their hand and grow alongside them.

This is the secret to being a peaceful conscious parent.